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wealthymatters“……..This man is telling you the truth when he says he does not want a girlfriend and a relationship. He is not prepared to be obligated to you or to commit to you. He wants to be able to deflect your questioning of his actions and his whereabouts. If other women come along that he wants to engage with; well he wants to be free to do as he pleases without any valid issue being raised on your part. What his actions are showing you is that he still wants the benefits and comfort of a relationship. He still wants the sex, companionship, and all the other things that a girlfriend provides which makes him feel good when he needs it. He likes the security of having you around and he will always have a fall back as long as he keeps you close. It really is as simple as that. If that man wanted to be in a relationship with you then he would make it happen. Hell some guys don’t even really want a relationship yet they will still lock the woman down to ensure that they get what they want. So if he isn’t prepared to officially make you his girlfriend then his mindset is clear, and you should take this man at his word on this one. Read more of this post

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Marriage Markets

wealthymattersThe fundamental divide in the United States today runs along the lines of class and marriage. College-educated Americans and their children reap the benefits of comparatively stable, happy marriages, while less-educated Americans—especially the poor and the working-class—are more likely to struggle with family lives marked by discord and marital instability. This two-tiered story ie articulated powerfully by June Carbone and Naomi Cahn in “Marriage Markets: How Inequality Is Remaking the American Family.”

Ms. Carbone and Ms. Cahn focus on macroeconomic changes to trace the retreat from marriage among the poor and working class. By their account, the new economy makes marriage a good deal for well-educated Americans, who can now pool two high incomes to the benefit of themselves and their children. By contrast, less-educated women are more likely to encounter “laid off or slacker” men who have been left in the lurch by the new economy. In 2010, only about 5% of college-educated men age 25-34 were unemployed, compared with almost 20% of men aged 25-34 with a high-school degree or less.

Ms. Carbone and Ms. Cahn point to an unbalanced “sex ratio” at the lower end of the economy—comparatively fewer marriageable men available to a comparatively larger pool of marriageable women. Such ratios make men “more likely to become unreliable cads and the women more likely to give up on the men and invest in themselves.” To the extent, then, that distinct cultural problems plague poor and working-class communities—increased infidelity, distrust and idleness—they flow from the fact that men have lost ground economically, making them less marriageable to the women of their class and circumstances, which explains why more than 50% of births to women without college degrees are out of wedlock.

College-educated women, by contrast, live in a social world where the ratio of marriageable men to women is close to even, where the men in their lives typically enjoy a stable and comparatively high income, and where men embrace a comparatively egalitarian approach to child care and housework. All these qualities make marriage a more attractive undertaking for the third of Americans who hold college degrees and explain why less than 10% of births to college-educated women are out of wedlock. Read more of this post

Knowledge Doesn’t Mean Skill

wealthymattersDo you remember the story of Grace Groner?If you don’t or are coming in late,here’s the story:Link.

Now compare her story with that of Richard Fuscone. He attended Dartmouth and earned an MBA from the University of Chicago. Rising through the ranks of high finance, Fuscone became Executive Chairman of the Americas at Merrill Lynch. Crain’s once included Fuscone in a “40 under 40″ list of successful businesspeople. He retired in 2000 to “pursue personal, charitable interests.” Former Merrill CEO David Komansky praised Fuscone’s “business savvy, leadership skills, sound judgment and personal integrity.”But Fuscone filed for bankruptcy in 2010 — the same year Groner’s fortune was revealed — fighting to prevent foreclosure of his 18,471-square-foot, 11-bathroom, two-pool, two-elevator, seven-car-garage New York mansion. This was after selling another home in Palm Beach following a separate foreclosure. “My background is in the financial-services industry and I have been personally devastated by the financial crisis,” Fuscone’s bankruptcy filing allegedly stated. “I currently have no income.” Read more of this post


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