“Something For My Hair Clips”
August 3, 2014 Leave a comment
In traditional Russian families it is very common that women look after the day to day budget and men tend to get some spending money handed out.
Both man and woman are likely to have saved some money from their salaries without disclosing it to their partners. A man would call it “zanachka”which could be translated as “stacked away” and women usually refer to it as “something for my hair clips” (which may sound like a small sum – but it usually is a substantial amount of money, way more than men put aside).
Men tend to save their money in cash, while women tend to buy something valuable with it or invest it.
Russian men are expected to pay for all large purchases,rent, holidays, restaurants, etc.as well as for the wedding. It is actually seen as an affront to a man if a woman pays for something in his presence. It might be seen as an attempt to say to this man that he is not masculine enough, not “a man” really.This applies to dating couples as well as the relationship between fathers and daughters.
While dating,it is typical of Russian men to spend a lot of money at a restaurant to impress women and then spend the rest of the month without money because of that.Every woman needs to know that her man will care for her And a lot of Russian women have been taught by their mothers and grandmothers that caring and paying is pretty equal .So no one wants to date a tight man.
After marriage,Russian women often keep money they have earned to themselves rather than contribute it in full into the family budget.The reason is that divorce settlements are usually not very favorable to women in Russia as the Russian family law does not provide for alimony for an ex-wife is. Alimony is only paid for children until they reach 18. So Russian women are brought up being aware and prepared to deal with a possible financial shortfall if they decide to get divorced.