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Friends And Family

June 9, 2014 Leave a comment

Friends come into our lives in the strangest of ways :

Sometimes we find them at a bus stop,

Sometimes at a bar,

We find them in school,

Or at work,

The Gym.

The doctor’s waiting room,

Sometimes through other friends.

Friends are people whom we like

Whom we feel comfortable with

Share happy times and sad

Who laugh with us and cry with us

People for whom we’d gladly die.

But how do we come upon our families?

How do they come into our lives?

Do we choose them at a cosmic plane?

Or do we get them by a karmic lottery?

Would we choose the same mother?
The same father?
Would we choose the same child?

-Sunita

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wealthymatters Here’s another wonderful story penned by Sunita. Ladies should you ever feel tempted to encourage a player,read this story.Ponder.Then desist.The Masters of Love may seem irresistible at the moment but a few days of giving into the madness will buy you a lifetime of troubles:

It seems this wonderful lady whom we all admire for being so accomplished, smart, intelligent, well qualified , good looking ( she studied overseas during her university days)and coming from a well established old Mumbai family fell in love with a much married and divorced man. Much against her mother’s wishes she married him and told her mother that she was living her own life. Over the years they had their own two children in addition to his earlier kids and supposedly they lived happily ever after.But it seems this man is a born “lover” who periodically falls in love with another woman apart from his wife. It is not looks which get to him but the woman’s personality – the ability to make him laugh and exchange views with her. Fifteen years ago the wife found out that he was terribly attracted to this charming middle aged divorcee who gamely indulged in some mild flirtation. The husband’s ardour was aroused and he would have gone on to have another full fledged affair but the wife went to the new love and told her “You’ve already suffered the consequences of having your house wrecked by another woman, why are you doing this to me?” The middle aged woman backed off and the woman’s marriage was saved. Read more of this post

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Marrying A Man Is Easy, Marrying His Mother Is Not.

June 9, 2014 2 Comments

It is my observation that two women cannot share a man and a woman is more possessive of her son than she is of her husband. So it is a natural reaction for every woman to resent the son’s wife who not only displaces the mother in terms of affection but also in terms of attention . In the normal course of events the mother chooses her son’s bride so she is more amenable to the new woman in her son’s life and unless the bride turns out to be a monster, the relationship can be cordial if not pleasant and loving. But God forbid, the man chooses his own bride, the mother already has her hackles up and for the young woman to win her heart she has to climb mountains, do somersaults, hang upside down, walk over coals and smile through every calamity. Marrying a man is easy, marrying his mother is not.

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Let Go – Make It Easy On Yourself

June 8, 2014 Leave a comment

every relationship has a course to run and when the time comes for that relationship to end it does . There could be any number of reasons for the death of a relationship – the physical re-location of a person, a clash of ideas and thoughts, the redundancy of the person and ultimately the actual death of a person. It could be something that happens suddenly or something that happens over time but happens it surely does.

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Dealing With Family

June 8, 2014 2 Comments

wealthymatters When it comes to family, it’s always the thoughtful, generous, helpful members who wind up on the losing end. Unfortunately, that will probably never change.Family will come right out and ask for a favour, but offer nothing in return. They’ll expect a brother, sister, or cousin to take time out of their day and do something. If that brother, sister, or cousin doesn’t want to or have time to do it, the family member who asked for the favour gets offended. Yes, that is twisted and wrong and very, very unfair.So what are you supposed to do? Just put your foot down and set some boundaries with your family. If you choose not to do so, you have no one but yourself to blame.

And BTW,if you feel your husband is being taken advantage of by his family,do not be suckered into taking up the cudgels on his behalf with your in-laws.Your husband is an adult and perfectly capable of saying no.Do not allow your husband to duck the responsibility of standing up for himself if he says he doesn’t want to do the things his family asks but at the same time doesn’t want to look like a bad person by not helping them out.Why carry the burden of being branded ‘the witch’ while your husband remains ‘the nice guy’?If you are worried about the use of your joint resources,force your husband to take a stand in the open.You have a right to your husband’s resources and need not hesitate to seek clarity.What is the worst you can hear?-That he doesn’t consider your needs the only or even primary charge on his resources?Its hard to stomach hearing something like this, but deal with it and you are free to make your own arrangements to have your needs satisfied.And as in all things,time is most important.The earlier you know,the more time you gain.