Sharu Ragnekar’s Gyan
June 9, 2014 Leave a comment
Sharu Rangnekar always tells his male management students to learn “How to Handle the Boss” from their wives.
When a man gets married, he is the Boss but within three months, he realizes that he is not the Boss. This is because his wife has managed to handle three things :
1) His insecurity
2) His ego
3) His idiosyncrasies
Here is Rangnekar’s illustration of how a wife goes about doing this:
1) Once while meeting an American friend over lunch, Rangnekar found him looking distracted and over-anxious to get back to his job. Rangnekar asked his friend what was so important about the job that he couldn’t’ slack off for half an hour! The man replied, “See if I botch up this assignment , I’ll get fired and if I lose my job, I’ll lose my wife.”
“How can that be?”argued Rangnekar , “In India my wife will never leave me even if I want her to!”
“How can you be so sure?” bantered the friend.
“Simple,” replied Rangnekar .”This is a cultural thing. You see, every year my wife keeps a fast like hundreds of other Indian women to ensure that she will have the same husband for seven lifetimes. Now whether we will be together for seven lifetimes is debatable, but the fact that she doesn’t want to lose me in this lifetime makes me secure in the knowledge that she will never leave me!” Read more of this post
This is the finest advice on negotiation that I have received ever.Want,but only that much.Know what you will give up to get what you want and then hold the line.Period.You don’t have to do every deal,irrespective of the terms and don’t allow others to use your need to get you to give up something of value before you get something you value equally,else this will be your story:
When it comes to family, it’s always the thoughtful, generous, helpful members who wind up on the losing end. Unfortunately, that will probably never change.Family will come right out and ask for a favour, but offer nothing in return. They’ll expect a brother, sister, or cousin to take time out of their day and do something. If that brother, sister, or cousin doesn’t want to or have time to do it, the family member who asked for the favour gets offended. Yes, that is twisted and wrong and very, very unfair.So what are you supposed to do? Just put your foot down and set some boundaries with your family. If you choose not to do so, you have no one but yourself to blame.
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